The short answer: wedding bands for same sex couples can be chosen in the same ways as any other, so the best approach is to pick styles you both love, in metals and widths that suit your hands and your lives. There is no required look.
Every couple is different, and good design is about the people wearing the rings. Here are ideas and practical advice for choosing wedding bands together.
Start with how you live
Think about your work, hobbies and how comfortable you are with a ring on all day. Some people prefer slim, low profile bands, and others like a broad, substantial ring. Comfort matters most, since you will wear the band for many years.
Matching, complementary or entirely different
- Matching: the same metal, width and finish, for a pair.
- Complementary: a shared metal or detail with different styles.
- Different: each band reflects its wearer, with no link needed.
Ring style ideas
- Classic plain bands in gold or platinum.
- Textured or brushed finishes for a modern look.
- Diamond or gemstone set bands for sparkle.
- Mixed metal bands that combine two colours.
A shared detail
Many couples like one small detail that links two different bands. It might be the same line of milgrain, a matching hidden stone inside each band, a pattern that continues from one ring to the other, or each partner's handwriting engraved inside the other's ring. These touches make two individual rings feel like a pair without asking either of you to compromise on style. See engraving handwriting or a fingerprint inside a band.
Engagement rings and bands
If one or both of you have an engagement ring, the band should sit well with it. We can design the band to fit around a setting, so the rings wear comfortably together. If you are each having an engagement ring as well as a band, we can plan all four so they work as a family of pieces.
Personal details
Engraving inside the band, such as a date, a name or a short phrase, adds meaning. You can also include a birthstone or a meaningful gem, set into the band or hidden on the inside.
Choosing stones
If you want stones, you can choose natural or lab grown diamonds or coloured gemstones, and we describe each one clearly. Some couples pick a stone for each partner's birth month, and others choose one colour they share.
Sizing for two
Each of you needs your own size, and a wide band may need a slightly larger size than a slim one. If you are ordering from a distance, we explain how to measure at home and check the measurements with you on video. See wedding band width guide.
Making the process comfortable
You are welcome to bring your own ideas, and we design every ring to order, so there is no standard look to fit into. We can talk through options by video, and we will work with the wording and style you prefer. Working with us from anywhere is simple, with design, approval and delivery all handled remotely.
How to choose
- Talk about what each of you wants and how you live.
- Choose a metal and finish you both like.
- Pick widths and profiles for comfort.
- Add a personal detail.
Nothing is made until you approve the design in writing, and our standard making time is 5 to 6 weeks, which can vary with your location and how busy we are. Pieces start from £600.
See his and hers wedding bands for how matching and complementary choices work, mixing metals in wedding bands and wedding bands without diamonds.
Frequently asked questions
Are there rules about matching? No, choose what you love.
Can we design them together? Yes, by video consultation.
Can you make bands with gemstones? Yes, to your design.
Can we have different engraving? Yes, each band can carry its own words.
Can we order from overseas? Yes, with insured, tracked FedEx delivery, and we explain any import duty and tax for your country.