The short answer: men's engagement rings are a growing tradition in some places and a long established custom in others, and there is no single rule. Couples today choose a ring for him, a matching band, or nothing at all, based on what feels right.
The idea that only the bride receives a ring is a custom that varies around the world. Here is a broad look at how approaches differ, offered as a general guide rather than a rule for any one country.
A varied picture
- In some places, both partners wear rings from engagement.
- In others, engagement rings are worn by one partner and both wear bands at the wedding.
- Some couples exchange a ring for him only at the wedding.
Traditions differ by region, religion and family, and practices change over time, so ask your own family about their customs, and treat any summary as a general guide. Our guide to men's engagement rings as a growing trend looks at how attitudes are changing.
Modern options for him
| Option | Description |
|---|---|
| Engagement band | A simple band worn from the proposal. |
| Signet ring | Personal and engraved. |
| Stone set ring | Diamond or gemstone in a masculine setting. |
| Matching set | Designed alongside your partner's ring. |
Choosing a style
- Think about his job and daily activity.
- Pick a metal he likes, such as platinum, white gold or yellow gold.
- Keep the design comfortable and low profile.
Finishes and textures
Many men prefer a ring that feels understated. A brushed or matt finish hides fine scratches and looks modern, a hammered texture adds character, and a high polish feels classic. A single stone set flush into the band, so it sits level with the metal, adds a little sparkle without catching on anything. Our guide to hammered, brushed and twisted bands shows the options.
Which finger and which hand
Customs vary, and many people simply choose the finger that is comfortable. Some wear the engagement ring on one hand and move it at the wedding, and others keep it where it is. There is no wrong answer, and we size for whichever finger you choose.
Engagement ring and wedding band together
If he will wear both an engagement ring and a wedding band, think about how they sit. Two plain bands of similar width stack comfortably, while a stone set ring may need a band designed to sit flush beside it. Some men wear the engagement ring on one hand and the wedding band on the other. We design both together if you wish, so they look intended. Our guide to diamond set wedding bands for men covers the band side.
Talking about it
If you are unsure whether he wants a ring, ask. Some people love the idea of showing their commitment, and others prefer not to wear jewellery. A signet or a ring worn on a chain can be a gentler first step.
Bespoke
We design rings for men to your brief, including signets and stone set bands. Nothing is made until you approve the design in writing, and our standard making time is 5 to 6 weeks, which can vary with your location and how busy we are. Pieces start from £600. Browse diamonds for ideas and see wedding bands.
See also signet rings.
Frequently asked questions
Which finger does a man wear it on? Customs vary, so choose what suits you.
Does he need a stone? No, plain bands are popular.
Can it match the wedding band? Yes, we can design them together.
Which finish hides scratches best? A brushed or matt finish.
Can you design both rings together from overseas? Yes, by video consultation, with insured, tracked FedEx delivery.